all conflicts are internal

If all conflicts are internal, why do we focus the majority of our attention on the external?

Why do you feel anger, guilt, envy, or jealousy? It is because internally, there is a conflict between how you want to feel or see yourself and a version of you that you dislike, which is outside of your control. This occurs because the story you tell yourself conflicts with the story you are hearing.

It is not the external factors but the internal ones that are causing the conflict in the first place. The external merely provides the ground from which the trigger comes. It is hiding in plain sight, yet we fail to recognize it.